Date a Man Who Dances

Date a man who dances because a man who dances is one of the strongest men alive. A man who dances has faced his peers and told them “Begone, give me room to move.” He is no ordinary man, when you date a man who dances that strength lies by your side. Within easy reach is a man who has convictions and isn’t afraid to live by them, When you date a man who dances you can trust he is standing behind his conviction that you are a person worth dating and he won’t back down. A man who dances may have strength in his arms but his real strength lies in his mind and his passions and a man who dances has the strength to use them.

When you date a man who dances under his strength he owns a softer side. He understands the language of touch and he is strong enough to listen. A man who dances knows how to hold you. He can feel your every thought. When you date a man who dances he can tell when you are afraid, excited, in love, trusting, happy or sad. If you date a man who can dance when he holds you he also knows how to talk to you when you touch. When a man who dances holds you he can turn you around, turn you up or turn you on. His hold can make a bad day sunny, he can hold you tight so you never want to let go. A man who dances can hold you in such ways that you can close your eyes and let go and know he won’t let you fall.

A man who dances isn’t a normal man. When you date a man who dances he will show the very heartbeat of life around you. He will tap it out for you until your feet want to move and your fingers twitch to the beat. A man who dances will show you that every sound has a flow and ebb and his body can float through these waves. A man who dances can take you on a journey through peaks and troughs more gloriously than any speedboat ride and when it stops you’ll be left with an empty spot you didn’t know needed filling.

You see when you date a man who dances he knows how to lead. That speedboat ride wasn’t chaotic and random. He sees those crests and valleys and he will take you through them with ease. Because a man who dances has the path picked out. When you date a man who dances you won’t stumble because when he’s holding you he already knows you’re on the wrong foot. A man who dances will change the move so your wrong foot is exactly the right foot. A man who dances will give you so many opportunities to ride those crests and be graceful, sexy, seductive and exuberant that you won’t understand how no one else can make you look and feel that way. A man who dances knows how to lead you to those places and he isn’t afraid to take you there.

When you date a man who dances he makes you feel that way because he has passion in abundance. A man who dances knows that a passion shared is a passion doubled. He doesn’t hide it from the world or let it squalor at the bottom of his heart too afraid to let it shine. A man who dances wants you to be so caught up in his passion that you don’t want to let go, He wants you to hold him while he dances as if nothing else existed and have that very passion reflected back to him. He wants to see his passion shine from your eyes as you ride those crests. He wants to see it turned into seduction, pleasure and desire, to see it beat out through music, rhythm and movement and a man who dances needs someone there to follow him.

You will never feel as alive as you do with a man who dances. A man who dances will show you how to live in a way that is primal. He will take your heart and your mind to a place most have forgotten. When you date a man who dances he will destroy your concepts of what men should be and show you what men really are. When you date a man who dances you must be prepared to never look back at ordinary men because few will ever hold the flame that a man who dances does. Nor will ordinary men be able to take you to the places a man who dances can. Dating a man who dances is a one way trip to a world of beauty which few can return untouched and none forget. He will set a standard you didn’t know could be reached and the ordinary will never be as satisfying again.


37 thoughts on “Date a Man Who Dances”

    1. That’s awesome 🙂 I hope you get your man.
      I’m a Zouk dancer, I love the freedom and the free flowing style but I’ll be starting Salsa and Bachata this year to expand my skills.
      There’s so much to learn.


  1. ha ha ha, obviously this is an article was written by a women, that thinks that she knows men. This is reality check for every one that believes this rubbish. Men that dance are no different than any other men. Dancing does not make a man better or worst than any other man. The dancing man won’t be able to read minds and a dancing man can’t develop that super power of understanding women. His personality is the same as in the case that he would have played tennis or did swimming or boxing. Dancing only gives you a few extra social skills but it will never change your personality. If you are a sweet guy you will always be a sweet guy no matter if you dance or not and if you are an attention thirsty asshole you will be an attention seeking dancing asshole or a boxing asshole or what ever you choose to do. Personality has nothing to do with dancing and to be honest in my last two years in which I have been involved with dancing I have met many many egocentristic and attention seeking guys. That many that I am starting to think that actually guys that dance can become little divas in time. Thank god I am not there yet and I honestly recommend to all guys that dance to do some other activities, different if possible so that they can stay grounded. Men that dance are what they are called, men, not better not worse. Also the dance floors are full of women that think to much of them selves. DAncing should be a fun activity, FOOD FOR THE SOUL AND NOT FOR THE EGGO.

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    1. 🙂 Last I checked I was man.

      Of course it involves generalisations. And your right there are a percentage of diva’s and aholes and all the rest.

      But … overall I have found men and women who dance a far better crowd of people in general. I’ve met a lot of really really good people dancing and as another generalisation they are far more grounded, far more likely to want to better themselves, far more likely not to be shallow and far more interesting.

      I’m sorry if your experiences have been more negative but mine have nearly always been positive.

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    2. Both woman who wrote an article and you are right. No different people or place than others. Although I really like your thought: “I honestly recommend to all guys that dance to do some other activities, different if possible so that they can stay grounded.”


    3. I so agree with you on some respects, but also I think that you may be overlooking something that is being said. The article is referring to a man that reads the music with his mind, body, and soul. Not just a man that dances, but a man that listens to the music of life, not just the music on a dance floor. The music of life also has a beat, and when you learn to read that beat, then the rest falls into place. I have been a dancer for over 40 years, and trust me, i have applied the art of dancing to the music i hear in life everyday. LIfe if a dance, and if you hear the music that is really in your heart all those other traits come along with it. I can do all that the article says, but its not my ego I do that with, but my spirit that I do it with and that spirit listens to not only my own beat of my heart but also the beat and rhythm of the heart of the lady I am dancing with at the time. I also was married for 32 years and very much in love with that lady, and since she died I again am on that dance floor, and again I am reading those ladies, and they respond in kind to my kindness, my tanicity, and my prowness. I am a good dancer, and have had many instructors tell me so, as well as the ladies I dance with. I do not have to read their minds, I only have to know how to read their actions, their words, their movements in relation to my actions, words, and movements. It is a simple process of allowing and listening to your spirit and your intent when you dance. I do not go dancing to pick up a woman, I go dancing to dance, and in that dancing, i never push,be pushy, or controlling. I allow the lady to follow my lead, and she will if she too is a dancer. It works, for if you get the music in your head and your heart, then the rest is just a part of this wonderful journey called life, which in itself is a dance too. FInd the beat..


    4. Love this comment post. I agree, the personality doesn’t change, but dancing enhances it both for good and bad. Men definitely need more than just dancing in their lives. And being able to read a female’s mind? I don’t think so. I was swing dancing last night, but for one of the girls I danced with in particular, she gave different facial expressions than I’ve seen for the last 2 years. Nothing about her expressions led to anything conclusive but left me more confused than ever. Also, I’ve seen alot more ass holes and divas with men who dance than what this post praises. I think there’s a reason this post was written by a person named The Naive Idealist…


    5. its mostly ego stroking for the men and women. Its just a fantasy world for them. They think they have lots of options with their many partners, but there is nothing in it. They are always looking to the next one. Pathetic life.


  2. I think the most definitive line in this article is, “a man who dances needs someone there to follow him.” Along with all the other things about what the man who dances wants, needs, and will do, there’s very little about what the woman already knows she wants. Contrary to Bogdan’s assumption (above), this seems written by a rather self-ingratiating man who is herein defining the kind of [caveman-drag-woman-by-hair-to-cave-and-f*ck-like-wildabeests] mentality that has, time and time again, made me not want to date a man who dances.
    In my experience, men who dance are either gay and/or they share this mentality of hyper focus on what THEY want (in life and relationships), often to the exclusion of what their dance/dating partner does – or doesn’t – want. Similarly, the dramatic, albeit poetic, condescension here is typical of the machismo that guys on the dance floor go home with, often alone (though sometimes with women whose better judgement is ethanol-impaired). Women don’t need men to show us the ebb and flow of the music. We dance because we’re already well aware of it. As for “he can tell when you are afraid, excited, in love, trusting, happy or sad” and making “a bad day sunny” – my dog can do that!
    As open as I am to meeting a good dancer who proves me wrong, I am meanwhile content to stumble along in life with a man whose two left feet can balance out my two right ones.


  3. After 25 years of ballroom dancing, I couldn’t agree with you more. I met my wife dancing over four years ago, and feel that your statement about having the right person to follow has finally taken place.

    For the ladies that believe that the lead in a dance is not a special talent should experience it for herself. Take lessons in learning the man’s part and try reading the floor and providing the proper floorcraft to glide gracefully through those troughs and rise through the crests, all the time accentuating the partner in your arms, and keeping her (or him if you prefer) safe from all others and free to enjoy the moment.

    Dancing is a beautiful art form that when performed in a partner arrangement can bring out the best, and the worst in all. Go dancing, watch the other dancers between your trips out onto the hardwood, and see who is truly smiling and flowing effortlessly around the floor, in unison, creating lines and shapes as one. When you see that, you’ll know that you have truly found a dancer! But be prepared, for when the music stops, the dance continues and grows beyond the imagination!


  4. I’m learning Tango. Will it make me a better man? I just don’t know. But the leading role I’m giving is a very great role. You can decide to let the follower shine, most of the time woman. And don’t we men want women to shine and enjoy? And I agree, most dancing people I’ve met until now are friendly and kind and open. Sure there will be others, but society is a mix off them all. Dancing Tango makes me happy when the moves are right and I think you can see it. Just dance and make everybody happy!


  5. All thoughts in this article seems right, but not all is so pink as described. I’m not sure we talking about same thing. Many dancers use to much ego, choreography or dancing technique. My dancing (contact improvisation) is far far away from all “standard” dancing lessons and I found that it is important, because we not dance for “eye candy visual”, but for inner feeling. I seen great performance from pre professional dancers on prestige private dance school, so precise performance, but like 2D, not 3D, something important missing, it was very sad to understand it. This essence cannot be learned, must be inside, self discovered. A few minutes then I seen amateurs dancers, with full of passion, naturality and warmth, not so incredible dance performance, but great feeling from this.

    I think that all movement can be creative and connect people over some type of passion. 🙂 But in many cases it is not available on dancing lessons in cities. Like monks, they going for their enlighten to mountains.

    See “Contact Improvisation” videos on youtube, you will understand. 😉


  6. What a load of self-obsessed fantasist waffle. I actually used to date a man who took up ballroom dancing, and he turned into an attention seeking, selfish, hystrionic, cheating diva. GE also gave up his job and lived off his father, because he “didn’t want to do anything that wasn’t fun”. He treated me very badly, has no friends, no girlfriend, but revels in the attention of lonely older women and in the control of them that he thinks dancing gives him. Give me a real man, one that actually spends time outdoors instead of obsessing over what he looks like and what steps he takes and clothes he is wearing! A man who, in a hypothetical life or death situation, might just save you, instead of running away!


    1. So you make a poor dating choice and you paint every dancer with that brush.

      I run a group within the dancing community that camps, hikes, kayaks, SUP boards, ice skates, paints, goes to movies and a bunch of other things (both men and women) and there are at least 30 of us who regularly attend. Dancing and being a real man/woman are not mutually exclusive things, most people are multi faceted with varying levels of skills in each facet.

      Your comment says more about your inability to make decent life choices then it does about dancers. Perhaps this is something you need to work on. There are quite a number of articles out there on how to spot narcissists and players, maybe you should read a few.


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